Why are so Many Men Scared of their Wives? Advice for marriage

Why? It is because their wives are bossy, evil, conniving hags who seek to control them using emotional techniques. These women pretend to be so sweet, but are really a bunch of serpents. Women often pander to men, but belittle their men when they don't give them what they want.

Many men in China today, a family-orientated culture, do not visit their families, all because of their wives. Their wives do not encourage them to because they don't like their family. How sad! No wonder divorces are increasing, and thus, one should not simply blame men just because they feel they can't cope with their marriages. This social phenomenon of men being scared of their wives is present universally.

Take Obama's wife for example. Her scowling, screwed face, when Obama was just taking a selfie with the English and Dannish PM was evident of her controlling aggression.

To the modern controlling conniving wife: if your husband wants to divorce you, it might be because of you. Don't just blame him because he doesn't think he can cope with you anymore. It is more likely that it is because of the way you treat him.

Advice to men: Never marry a woman who thinks you need to serve her to satisfy her by her standards. Such women are selfish, conniving hags.

Marriages Case Study (6)

John attended a Conservative college, where he met Nancy, who attended a liberal college in the same city. The two dated, and developed strong feelings for one another, despite their large differences in their values. Nancy, an atheist, convinced John that she loved him, and that he loved her. Having expected it from her earlier, more liberal, boyfriends, Nancy convinced John to have pre-marital sex, despite his misgivings. They used contraception, but being imperfect, it failed, and Nancy became pregnant. John then proposed to Nancy and the two were soon married.

John finished college and got a good job, while Nancy dropped out and raised their son. Like many liberal college students,^[3] Nancy was a drug user, and had drug-dealer friends. These people had frequent access to John and Nancy's apartment. One day, while John and Nancy were on vacation, Nancy's drug-dealing "friends" let themselves in and stole nearly everything they owned. They even used their bank records to empty their accounts. When Nancy realized what happened, and who was responsible, she tried to make it look like a random break-in, rather than an inside job. She was sloppy, however, and the police were quick to realize her complicity after the fact. Nancy went to jail for several months, while John lost his job because sensitive papers he had brought home were stolen in the robbery. Completely destitute and without a job, John took his son and moved in with his parents.

John divorced Nancy while she was still incarcerated. He met a nice conservative woman who he started to date, and, with a good work ethic, slowly began to put his life back together.

Keep two eyes wide open before marriage. If he had married a non-liberal, he would not have had to keep two eyes wide open during marriage. He would be able to keep one eye half shut.

Marriages Case Study (5)

Kate was a conservative woman who fell in love with Bill, a liberal man. Bill convinced her to marry him despite her parents' strong objections. Ten years later, Kate began to suffer from strange bouts of lethargy and sickness. Several trips to the doctor were unable to find a cause, until he performed a blood test. It turned out that Kate had AIDS. She confronted Bill who admitted that he considered himself bisexual and had been involved in several homosexual affairs while married to Kate. He was tested as well, and also was HIV positive, but the disease had not progressed to AIDS. Kate divorced and is now forced to take a battery of medications to delay the inevitable.

Know thy husband/wife as to whether one has a sexually transmitted disease. 

Marriages Case Study (4)

Elizabeth was a smart liberal who knew she would be better off marrying a conservative than a liberal like herself. She found one in Stan, a conservative who was a very hard worker and who did not have the luxury of time to develop the social skills that Elizabeth had.

Stan's circle of friends and acquaintances were limited, and he thought all women were liberal. He married Elizabeth thinking that all women were liberal like her.

For the next thirty years Elizabeth censored Stan's conservative comments, interfered with his conservative activities, and caused problems for Stan at every political turn. But Stan thought all women were that way, and rarely complained.

Tragically, Elizabeth became sick and died. Stan then remarried, this time to a conservative woman whom he did not even realize existed. For the rest of his life Stan marveled at how different -- and better -- his life was.

Watch out for people who like you only because of your good values, but unaccepting and intolerant of your shortcomings. People who love you only because of your 'good' values, whatever it means of them, are people who see you as a means to use you for their own good. They will not support you during your hard times unless it is to their benefit.

Do not envy those people who appear to have a good marriage, but only remain together because of the material gain both parties receive. Beware those who are politically correct, unless you can tolerate pro-political correctness people, perhaps because you yourself support political correctness. 

For people who are not pro-political correctness, do not, for goodness sake, marry a pro-political correctness person. He (or she, for PC's sake), will restrict your freedom of thought, beliefs, expression, speech and actions merely because he believes it is "immoral" or "wrong" when they are in fact, not wrong, or even, moral. Moral absolutism is typically a foreign concept for pro-PC people, and whenever they deem some act to be wrong in the absolute sense, it is typically out of hypocrisy. 

Marriages Case Study (3)

Beth was a conservative woman who liked Bob, a liberal man. Beth put her reservations aside and married Bob, and then gave Bob the best 30 years of her life. Beth had children with Bob and raised them to college.

Then, around age 50, Bob decided he'd like to date younger women. He divorced Beth against her wishes, and now she lives alone.

Bob's actions were consistent with the Hollywood values he preferred. Beth's actions in staying with Bob and raising the children during her younger years were consistent with her conservative values. But now Bob is happy, while Beth is not.

This is a lesson why one should not marry a liberal. Liberals tend to have lower moral standards about sexual ethics. Therefore, they are more likely to view marriage as mere companionship in which one should be free to choose more sexual partners, and that the other must "respect" that - to respect another's wishes to have multiple romantic/sexual partners. Unless you are prepared to do that, don't marry a liberal.

Source: Conservapedia.com

Marriages Case Study 2

Suzy was attractive, and promiscuous. Joe, a conservative, liked Suzy and was impressed by her ability to excel at a top college and even succeed at a good graduate school. Joe decided it did not matter if Suzy did not share his conservative values, and Joe married Suzy.

For the next 25 years Joe tried with Suzy to have children, without success. What caused the infertility can never be known with certainty, but it is known that about half of promiscuous people carry sexually transmitted diseases, and that these diseases can cause infertility.

One should not marry someone simply because of their abilities, or even simply because they are not promiscuous. One should make sure one behaves morally before expecting others to behave morally. Liberals are more likely to spread sexually transmitted diseases to others than conservatives, owing to their lax attitude towards sexual relations. One should be careful before one gets married in relation to past sexual relations, among other things. Above all, one should also not judge others - being careful is not being judgmental. 

Source: Conservapedia

Feminist Indoctrination and Double Standards

Many people do not realise how indoctrinated they are by feminism. Feminism has blinded people, including men and boys themselves to think that they are the ones who are responsible for all the 'plight of women'. Google searches reveal 10 ways the world is sexist against men and boys, such as how boys are expected to always give in to the wishes of their girlfriends no matter how pushy or manipulative she has been. As someone brought up in a more conservative culture, as opposed to the liberal Australia culture living in Australia, I can see very clearly the double standards against men. On the other hand, women in the Australia, and perhaps the West at large, are not in any way reprimanded for being manipulative. In fact, I have seen how such manipulation by Australian women is encouraged - regarded as a sign of a "strong, "independent" woman. This sort of manipulation is considered one of the most despicable character traits in cultures where there is an obligation of respect for all others, such as in Asia.

No wonder men do not want to marry and have lost respect for women in the West. It it all too understandable.

Who can you Trust?

The people who can least be trusted as people who are treated nicely and with great esteem, but do not treat others like that. So, beware of who you are working with, in a relationship with and who you talk to regularly.The views and ideologies of an individual determined whether one will respect others. Those who hold individualistic ideologies or attitudes, such as the Jezebel spirit can not be trusted much, if at all. Anyone who falls into the snares of such a person should break free immediately.

The Stalker (1)

There was once a shy girl, who everyone at uni rejected. She was a very quiet academic girl who has no friends. She spent most of her time, not in the library working hard, but in the places of debauchery and decadence.  Her hair looked like a beehive without bees as it smelt of rot.  Not feeling secure about herself, she would always rub on bright red lipstick which made her look like she had double lips. She wore the shortest skirt in the whole uni. She thought it would make her look good, but it made her legs look most unsightly. She was out to a boy, but no one wanted her as she was an arrogant, domineering person. Her appearance reflected her character.

It was rumoured that she was a 'slut'. Many people were only too willing to believe this. It was not that they were any better though, they just didn't like her. The uni had a campus spy network made up of uni students who peered on the secret lives of others. No one knew of their meeting places or information they collected about others.

Once day after class, a boy approached her after class. He told her how beautiful he thought she was and asked her out. She replied with a resounding yes. They spend the night engaged in romantic physical touching so intimate that no one would do if they knew someone was watching. To their detriment not yet known to them, a campus spy had captured their activities on video.

The boy had a skinny figure which made him look malnourished. His long hair hid his timid face, which was because his face looked like it had never been washed. His hair also looked like a jungle for fleas, except that it had no fleas because they had a better place to go to. No one liked him because he was a weak character with the most irrational mind. Neither did he do well academically or socially. He was lonely and he too had wanted a girl to talk to. Not that he deserved to have anyone to talk to, but he just couldn't survive at uni by himself. Like the girl described before, his character is written all over his appearance.

To be continued...

Friendship: 7 Signs of a Untrustworthy "Friend" (3)

There are 7 distinct signs of an untrustworthy "friend" who pretends to be your friend, but is really your enemy.

1. They are nice to you when you appear to be vulnerable, but when you are strong, they find it something that deserves cynicism.
2. They are appear polite to people, but gossip about some people behind their backs. 
3. They do not talk to the less popular people. They only talk to their own group of elitist friends.
4. They identify themselves to be of only one group and find it unthinkable how they can be thought to be associated with less popular people.
5. They are controlling. They like to criticise and lecture you for doing little things they find an eyesore. Whenever someone else is doing something bad, they turn a blind eye.
6. They tend to only talk to people of the opposite sex to look popular. They do not enter relationships with people of the opposite sex for who they are.
7. They like to know your latest fashions, achievements, etc, not your needs. 

Friendship: The Dark Art of Being Friendly (2)

We all need to feel a sense of belonging and love. There is nothing wrong with it and it is only just too natural. The ability to making others feel loved and have a sense of belonging is a good quality trait. However, this quality trait can be exploited to manipulate others. Some people are able to hide their dark motives by showing friendship, not for the other person, but for their own gain. These people tend to be those who seem friendly, but are cliquey. They tend to be popular with their own group of friends who are also very popular and powerful. This is what you would call the 'TC' group at school.

Any group that made of mainly popular and powerful people, whether they are academic, sporty, musical or artistic is a 'TC' group. A 'TC' group is not necessarily a mean, bullying group, at least in appearance, but it is typically somewhat snobby and discriminates the "lesser", beta groups. They are empowered because they have the ability to make others feel comfortable where they are, whether this 'comfort' comes from being willing to submit to the demands of the TC group to act their way or adapt to their way, or from feeling vindicated about what one does. It is to be noted that this is not to say that are all bad.

People who appear friendly may only want to be friendly to gain your affection, and have no regard for your needs. It is important to discern whether someone being friendly to you really means it. To do so, one must look at how they treat others, especially those who are less popular or powerful.

Friendship: The Secret Weapon of Friendliness (1)

All humans like to be treated with respect and also friendliness. We prefer to people be friendly to us, and only if people are friendly to us will we consider that person a friend. However, friendliness can be used as a tool to manipulate others. There are a wide and varied range of ways in which people can manipulate others. Manipulating others involves using others for one's own gain whether it be for one's security, comfort, material gain, or even good repute. Only by forming a friendship with another can one use that person for one's good. Many people form friendships with others for this reason. Friendliness is the mere outward appearance of a friend. Whether one can be considered a friend is a different matter. I question whether there is a such thing as a true friend. This may sound very skeptical or cynical, but it is a question that one must ask. This is because we all need to form relationships with others. 

Friendliness, however, is the first step to forming a friendship with another. Whether it is genuine, or out of hypocrisy or pride, needs to be examined. Friendliness is a character trait which can be exploited to win the trust of others, and use them for one's benefit. 

Love at First Sight

You become so attracted to you each you engage in intimate physical activity and get into a romantic relationship. You go all the way. You think this stabilises the relationship. A few weeks later, you break up. Both of you feel hurt. Why? By going all the way, you felt like you were in love in an uncommitted relationship, but you weren't really in love. You fell in lust. You were seeking your own physical or emotional gain. Maybe you have been played on. Maybe you weren't, but either way, both of you were in the relationship for yourself, not the other person. This is not love. This is against love. This may sound like an ancient concept, but you have dishonoured the body of the other person. You used it for yourself and so now you feel guilty. You heart is broken.

You see, dear friend, there is no such thing as love at first sight.

I am not in any way saying that people deserve the hurt. I am explaining how people become hurt. If you feel guilty because you have had this experience, forgive yourself. That's the only thing you can do. Forgive yourself and move on. You have  just made a mistake. Everyone makes mistakes. You may need to humble yourself and apologise to the other person. You may feel humiliated by doing this, but this is the only way you can forgive yourself and move on. 

Winking Eyes

You step into the room. The place smells of fun, laughter and, love. You have gotten what you are looking for. Someone who seems charming, attractive and sweet.  You want to hang onto that person who you feel in love with, that is all you are thinking about and you cannot think about anything else. With sweat-filled brows and shaking hands, you hide somewhere where the new crush and his or her friends cannot see you. Wiping  your brows clean in secret and talking to some friends to calm yourself down, you attempt to walk up to the apple of your eye. You say "hello" as confidently as you can make it sound. If they said hello back in an interested manner, you keep talking. If not, you attempt to find out who they are interested in.

Fortunately for you, they seem interested and talk. You continue to chit-chat about life. He or she tells you about his or her life. After a while when you feel that you know each other so intimately, you kiss. Tongue-to-tongue. You kiss hard.

Love at first sight, or is it?

Story to be continued...

What happened Last Night?

Your face is filled with sweat and you pant as you walk into the bathroom to get dressed into your best clothes. With high heels, you tether into the room where people chatter loquaciously, people danced in a circle and people hanging onto someone they think they are attracted to, but are not sure if they are, but they hang onto them just in case. Above all, you see people kissing. Yes, people who don't know each other kiss. Hard. Not only do they do it with one person, they do it with more than one person on the same night.
Girls spread nasty rumours about girls who have found favour with the boys. Boy fight with boys who the girls find charming. What's more? School-aged children (yes, children) get involved in this type of activity.

Kissing is now casual. Anyone who has not kissed more than one person by the age of 18 is considered not only abnormal, but a self-righteous, moralistic bigot. Sex is now casual. Anyone who believes sex before marriage is wrong is not only abnormal, but naive, conservative, and even self-righteous. Gone are the days of moral codes and honoring others. Sounds good, doesn't it? No, it does not. In any society which thrives on sexual freedom, people and families suffer. Men, women and children have been destroyed by such conduct because sexual relations ties people together. When such ties are broken, people are hurt. People seek to get their own way and seek revenge.

Welcome of the world of sexual freedom and sexual rights.

The Origins of the Sexual Revolution

In order for one to understand the history of sexuality and sexual behaviour, one must understand Alfred Kinsey. According to  Miriam Grossman, a medical doctor who dubbed the modern sexual norms as "madness", Kinsey is the one who has influenced modern sexual behaviour. I will be exploring more about the history of the sexual revolution in the next few posts. I strongly recommend you check out Grossman's blog: http://www.miriamgrossmanmd.com/blog/. She attempts to clear up the confusion about sex that many youths are facing.

Gay movement: The Change in Power (2)

The homosexual movement was active in encouraging people to support their stance. Like many other political movements, the campaigned at universities to produce a generation that was supportive of gay marriage and the like. Once a generation of people who believed that the so-called traditional values were no longer relevant, and the sexual revolution which gave birth to the notion that sex should be freely shared, cohabiting between opposite sex couples became acceptable.

Cohabiting has become normal, and anything which was against it was attacked as conservative and naive. The homosexual movement had gained more momentum ever since the sexual revolution and so, it become generally accepted that homosexual relationships are acceptable and deserve respect. Now, homosexual activists are fighting for equality in their terms, that is, gay marriage rights.

Pleasure and Power (2)

One thing that can be noticed is that boys tend to use love to get physical pleasure. Girls, on the other hand use physical pleasure to get love. It might seem like a fair deal, right? No. It is dangerous, but it is amazing how many people do not care.

When people engage in physical pleasure, there is a strong bond formed. People give their soul to the other person. So engaging in such activity is a promise. This is no clique, but a fact. Many people have become deluded into thinking that sex is casual. Really, there is no such thing as "casual sex".

Thus, sex can be used by people as a form of social control. When it is done outside a fully (yes, 100%) committed relationship, it will leave emotional pain on people. When people are enticed into engaging in such activity with another, people are being trapped into giving one's soul to another. Don't believe me? 

Ask yourself how many happy stable marriage are there between people who have engaged in premarital and extramarital sex. 

It is important that people are careful of those who act in a lewd manner or those who dress promiscuously.

You should not feel that you have to trust these people or be friendly with them. Because you don't. 

Pleasure and Power (1)

Our society is one where "anything goes". The sexual revolution during the 1960's meant that love was free and that everyone is entitled to love from others. It was generally believed, and still is believed, that sex means love. These are the two greatest lies of our society

Love is not free. Love is from the heart, not from the face or body. One cannot say that one loves another unless he or she cares for that person.

Sex is not love. It is an expression of love, but an expression itself is not love. Therefore, sex cannot be used to get "love". It won't.

Love does not focus on the way people look like, or their achieves. It cares for people and appreciates people for who they are from the bottom of the heart.

It is that simple.

Don't fall for her because She's Hot

A young woman wanted to show everyone how she "had it all". She achieved straight 7's academically, and could always be seen hanging about with the same group of girlfriends. All her friends had boyfriends, so wanted to have five. She was not kind to others, but she no problem getting five boyfriends because she was hot.

She used s*x to get all five. They all paid for "it". Her boyfriends were feared by everyone, especially the less mature boys, because they enjoyed watching them wince whenever they would be bullied by the alpha females. They were alpha males.

The young woman had been going out with her alpha males for a month, when one of them become physically involved with another girl. Angered, she vowed that she would not trust men ever again, because one of the five boyfriends left her for another.

The Women's Collective held a rally to sought to help women who had been facing relationship problems with men. She spoke at the rally:

"I want to help women who have been bullied by men. I know from the bottom of my heart how it feels, I have been through this myself. I want to empower women to feel good about themselves in relationships."

All the feminists cheered in approval.

Everyone else knew what had really been going on. She had seduced all five of her boyfriends who were going out with other girls. A right-thinking person would think that she had learnt her lesson, but she had not.