Marriages Case Study (4)

Elizabeth was a smart liberal who knew she would be better off marrying a conservative than a liberal like herself. She found one in Stan, a conservative who was a very hard worker and who did not have the luxury of time to develop the social skills that Elizabeth had.

Stan's circle of friends and acquaintances were limited, and he thought all women were liberal. He married Elizabeth thinking that all women were liberal like her.

For the next thirty years Elizabeth censored Stan's conservative comments, interfered with his conservative activities, and caused problems for Stan at every political turn. But Stan thought all women were that way, and rarely complained.

Tragically, Elizabeth became sick and died. Stan then remarried, this time to a conservative woman whom he did not even realize existed. For the rest of his life Stan marveled at how different -- and better -- his life was.

Watch out for people who like you only because of your good values, but unaccepting and intolerant of your shortcomings. People who love you only because of your 'good' values, whatever it means of them, are people who see you as a means to use you for their own good. They will not support you during your hard times unless it is to their benefit.

Do not envy those people who appear to have a good marriage, but only remain together because of the material gain both parties receive. Beware those who are politically correct, unless you can tolerate pro-political correctness people, perhaps because you yourself support political correctness. 

For people who are not pro-political correctness, do not, for goodness sake, marry a pro-political correctness person. He (or she, for PC's sake), will restrict your freedom of thought, beliefs, expression, speech and actions merely because he believes it is "immoral" or "wrong" when they are in fact, not wrong, or even, moral. Moral absolutism is typically a foreign concept for pro-PC people, and whenever they deem some act to be wrong in the absolute sense, it is typically out of hypocrisy.