You become so attracted to you each you engage in intimate physical activity and get into a romantic relationship. You go all the way. You think this stabilises the relationship. A few weeks later, you break up. Both of you feel hurt. Why? By going all the way, you felt like you were in love in an uncommitted relationship, but you weren't really in love. You fell in lust. You were seeking your own physical or emotional gain. Maybe you have been played on. Maybe you weren't, but either way, both of you were in the relationship for yourself, not the other person. This is not love. This is against love. This may sound like an ancient concept, but you have dishonoured the body of the other person. You used it for yourself and so now you feel guilty. You heart is broken.
You see, dear friend, there is no such thing as love at first sight.
I am not in any way saying that people deserve the hurt. I am explaining how people become hurt. If you feel guilty because you have had this experience, forgive yourself. That's the only thing you can do. Forgive yourself and move on. You have just made a mistake. Everyone makes mistakes. You may need to humble yourself and apologise to the other person. You may feel humiliated by doing this, but this is the only way you can forgive yourself and move on.
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